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Anastasia
climber
hanging from an ice pick and missing my mama.
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May 22, 2011 - 08:47pm PT
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Yup, I agree. Whatever Hank is doing is a really good path to follow.
Ha! Or just pick a couple that have been at it for thirty plus years. They have a pretty good clue.
:)AFS
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LuckyPink
climber
the last bivy
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May 22, 2011 - 09:19pm PT
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oh the joys of middle class angst..
don't decide at all.. just keep your family names and decide about 10 years from now after all this calms down a bit.. I did appreciate Ed's solution.
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Ed Hartouni
Trad climber
Livermore, CA
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May 22, 2011 - 09:23pm PT
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I had a friend who was married, she kept her maiden name for professional reasons (they were both professionals). Eventually they had a child who had the father's family name. She had this feeling that she wanted to have the same name as her son, so she changed her name... after a few years...
go with the flow...
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Ed Hartouni
Trad climber
Livermore, CA
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May 22, 2011 - 09:54pm PT
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Dood, why not start a "pussywhipped" thread and leave it alone in this thread... just a thought...
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Chinchen
climber
Way out there....
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May 22, 2011 - 10:52pm PT
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I have to tip my hat to my wonderful wife for taking my screwy last name, Chinchen.....
Chinchen-Petzold was just too long....plus the two choices were lame to begin with.
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Crimpergirl
Sport climber
Boulder, Colorado!
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May 22, 2011 - 10:55pm PT
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Haha! Good one Roger!
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Ed Hartouni
Trad climber
Livermore, CA
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May 22, 2011 - 11:37pm PT
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Tami... you mean like this?
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=F-bsf2x-aeE
and Roger, it's the end of the day here, it must be there... what'd you come up with?
(or is this another disappointing no show like yesterday's end-of-the-earth thingy).
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Jan
Mountain climber
Okinawa, Japan
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May 23, 2011 - 12:20am PT
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Like Tami said.
The more names in a household the better.
Keep those neighbors guessing!
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drljefe
climber
El Presidio San Augustin del Tucson
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May 23, 2011 - 12:27am PT
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Big props to Chinchen's wife! ;^}
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Forest
Trad climber
Denver, CO
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May 23, 2011 - 12:35am PT
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Your parents don't get a vote here. Do what you and your soon-to-be wife want to do.
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Chinchen
climber
Way out there....
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May 23, 2011 - 12:40am PT
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Yea, no sh#t drljefe!
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Jan
Mountain climber
Okinawa, Japan
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May 23, 2011 - 12:41am PT
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DNA may well replace family names in another 50 years as far as legal identity is concerned.
Perhaps our Y-chromosome and Mtn DNA haplotypes will become our new clan names?
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Chinchen
climber
Way out there....
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May 23, 2011 - 01:11am PT
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No, you are right. I just like to put myself down. Both names are unique and fun. I tell people that if they can come up with a joke I have not heard about my last name I will buy them a six pack.
My wife kicks ass, and sometimes it's mine. Just ask F-10...
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nutjob
Gym climber
Berkeley, CA
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May 23, 2011 - 01:13am PT
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The most bitter fights between my ex and I related to our parents (even before there were any issues with parents interfering with the relationship). Our marriage might have worked if we had sufficiently dealt with our parental issues before being in the marriage. That is the background that leads me to state the following:
cms... getting emotional independence from the parents (yours and hers) can only increase the chances of your life-long happiness and marriage. If parental input about last names causes you to be stressed and lose sleep, that's something to dig into deeper and deal with now.
Consider this scenario: you have a newborn baby at home, it's screaming and you're freaked out because you don't know what's wrong, your mom (or mom in law) insists on doing X because she has more experience (let's say give raw honey to the newborn), you're not sure, and your wife is freaking out at the idea but is too shy to say it directly and wants you to say something... Is this going to be a recipe for disaster in your house? Or create an ulcer for you?
Better to establish the order of things now.
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Chinchen
climber
Way out there....
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May 23, 2011 - 01:18am PT
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I weaved a trellis out of willow branches for my wife in her garden today. Does that make me a S.N.A.G. ?
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drljefe
climber
El Presidio San Augustin del Tucson
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May 23, 2011 - 01:37am PT
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As long as no chinchenchillas were harmed.
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Chinchen
climber
Way out there....
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May 23, 2011 - 01:53am PT
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Strike.
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drljefe
climber
El Presidio San Augustin del Tucson
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May 23, 2011 - 02:08am PT
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More Chins and Chens than a chinese phonebook?
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pazzo
climber
Vancouver BC
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May 23, 2011 - 02:32am PT
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Unless your last name is something like "Gayman" or anything like that, then you should NOT take her name. What kind of man are you!?!
And besides, who gives a sh#t if she takes your name or not. She is marrying you not your name. Traditional? Tradition went out the window back when I was 17 and my parents bought me a car worth twice as much as both of theirs. Haha.
As for hyphenated last names...they look silly and make me laugh every time I see one.
Good luck and may you have a great marriage!
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cms
climber
toyota, tacoma
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Topic Author's Reply - May 23, 2011 - 10:41am PT
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Thanks to everyone for positive thoughts and encouragement.
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