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Rankin
Social climber
Greensboro, North Carolina
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Apr 15, 2014 - 02:34pm PT
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Sorry for your loss Weeg. Heal up and come back stronger.
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Sanskara
climber
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Apr 15, 2014 - 02:36pm PT
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You will figure it out Weeg we always do.
I also got off the sauce more than once only for the woman to then leave after the fact.
A few thoughts, sometimes the damage was already done and the inevitable was just the inevitable and the timing a coincidence.
Other times like attracted like one sick person to the other. Those that are sick are not always substance abusers. But the mentally ill often seek out others unknowingly also with some disjunction. When one person goes and gets better the other is left still seeking that dysfunctional relationship they sought out In the first place.
I knew I finally had my substance problems licked years ago when I for the first time left someone because I could see the writing on the wall. After getting sober a couple years prior and despite how much I loved this person and they loved me all the years time and effort put forth it just was not in the cards as this person had serious emotional illness.
Years removed freedom and peace prevail. It will again for you also..
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Michelle
Social climber
1187 Hunterwasser
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Apr 15, 2014 - 03:09pm PT
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Hang in there man. Let me know when your over in the HMB area again, we can go to my not so top secret beach.
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Wayno
Big Wall climber
Seattle, WA
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Apr 15, 2014 - 03:41pm PT
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I have a buddy about your age that has two boys about five and seven. He is going to marry the mother of those boys in October.
I wish you both the best of everything.
You two remind me of each other in a strange way; very dissimilar in other ways.
Carry on.
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Big Mike
Trad climber
BC
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Apr 15, 2014 - 03:49pm PT
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Hey buddy. Just gave you a ring. Hope you're ok. Call me when you get the chance or i'll call again later.
Mike
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survival
Big Wall climber
Terrapin Station
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Apr 15, 2014 - 03:55pm PT
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Sorry to read of this.
Hang in there Weeg. It took a long time for me to get over the initial shock and for my ex and I to get all the child rearing hurdles cleared but we did it.
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Lynne Leichtfuss
Sport climber
moving thru
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Apr 15, 2014 - 04:04pm PT
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I don't know.
But from the bottom of my heart I wish the absolute very best for the kiddos and their parents. lynne
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Lollie
Social climber
I'm Lolli.
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Apr 15, 2014 - 04:06pm PT
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Welcome to the gang.
It seems as you have found a good way of splitting up, the most important being the joint custody. Only important thing rather.
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mucci
Trad climber
The pitch of Bagalaar above you
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Apr 15, 2014 - 04:31pm PT
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He buddy,
Give me a ring if you want.
Blonde #1 would say to keep on keeping on with your funky self!
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OR
Trad climber
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Apr 15, 2014 - 05:34pm PT
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Hey, sorry Weeg. I've always enjoyed your posts, pics of your family and your cool house. Chin up and carry on! Lots great single dads out there living the life.
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neebee
Social climber
calif/texas
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Apr 15, 2014 - 06:57pm PT
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hey there say, norwegian... i just saw this...
you are all in my prayers, as you have been, and in my heart, as i think of you all...
say, as a note of new hopes and horizons, and keeping a good future for the girls:
my ex son in law, had this same situation happen in his life:
no matter how much, compatable issues were NOT enough to smooth the
'non compatable'...
each time they all did this without lawers, as, they KNOW and respect each other enough--more important could still work together for the kids (this needs to be there, or it will fall into worse fights, yet unseen, if folks are not open to share well and honest)...
well--he stayed open with his freinds, solid and stable for his girls, and approachable and respectful for the ex's... and now, he has a life that he actually can handle, as to less pressure, and:
the relationships are now smooth...
sometimes, though sad, this thing happens and trails split...
it is WHAT we do with these trails and how we handle them, that makes
the difference for the future of the children, children that will have to have knowledge on HOW to handle trails of their own someday, and IN stable strong ways, with no 'confusion from unsettled youth issues' as they grew...
hang in there... reach out and LET your friends help you work this trail, and say, let's all hope and pray to see some good growth and the least amount of 'mudslides and pitfalls' along this trail...
thanks for sharing, you can't get support, advice or help, if you don't share--and here, are those that have faced such things, as well...
trail markers, or making new ones of your own... they will all be here to learn from...
god bless in and at, this hard time, to both you, the girls and their mom...
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Jaybro
Social climber
Wolf City, Wyoming
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Apr 15, 2014 - 08:47pm PT
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Do t know what to say Weeg.
May it work out best for all four of you!
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mouse from merced
Trad climber
The finger of fate, my friends, is fickle.
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Apr 15, 2014 - 10:04pm PT
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being cast out is not the same as casting off moorings
tenuous at the best of times, the ties would not bind
a ring bend or a ring or a sixer instead of a sit-down dinner
no more must you bother with thinking ur no winner but a sinner
move on and up but sideways and now u can take ur time getting down
and really enjoy that beer and life, too
the best to you each morning, norseman
cock-a-doodle to ya!
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Jim Clipper
climber
from: forests to tree farms
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Apr 15, 2014 - 11:46pm PT
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Weeg,
If you need a place to get away, p.m. me. My wife and I aren't up here (in the basin) often. If you are in a bind, or just need a break, let us know.
Brett
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Ham and Eggs
Mountain climber
Aoraki/Mt Cook Village
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Apr 16, 2014 - 03:23am PT
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She might well be hurting as much as you are
Perhaps thinking of similar things, near as often
Trusting there's emotional content in everything you do
Keep warm, but stay cool
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thebravecowboy
climber
in the face of the fury of the funk
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Apr 17, 2014 - 03:22am PT
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oh, and 'Weeg,
I have three words for you:
Pol-y-amory.
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Ward Trotter
Trad climber
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Apr 17, 2014 - 03:36am PT
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You will see this ex-wife one day
Pitifully serving borscht soup
In an obscure Ukranian hostelry
You have travelled there
Under commissioned orders from Putin
To trim the entire Siberian forest
She has fallen from grace
And has married a Cossack sadist
Under 39 years of crushing debt
You are rich beyond measure
As Putin's chief advisor
And tree surgeon
You thumb-toss her a single glinting ruble
As you heroically vanish , head held high
Back into the frozen Siberian night
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anita514
Gym climber
Great White North
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Apr 17, 2014 - 07:19am PT
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Polyamory doesn't work.
Just asking for trouble.
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