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paul roehl
Boulder climber
california
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Oct 14, 2013 - 06:41pm PT
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The rule of age in dating/hookup/marriage is the following: half your age plus seven years... so at 51 you have 25.5 plus 7 or 32.5 The cutoff line for 51 is 32.5. Anyone over 32.5 years is fair game anyone younger is trouble.
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Daphne
Trad climber
Northern California
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Oct 14, 2013 - 06:43pm PT
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While it is good for you to see that the interest in love, connection and a good shtupping continue into middle age and beyond, leaping into "what ifs" about a solid relationship without any long term information gathered from the period that happens after the love-drugs abate reveals your lack of readiness.
My professional opinion? I'd say that this is your body saying "I am ready" and the strength of the chemistry is over-riding your pre-frontal cortex. Wait until your divorce is final and you've had a while on your own without distraction before you open up to finding your mate.
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Gene
climber
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Oct 14, 2013 - 06:50pm PT
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Met a beautiful woman who's 26 and I'm 51.
If your birthday is before hers, you will be twice her age. What's she gonna do when she turns 50 and you're 100?
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jstan
climber
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Oct 14, 2013 - 07:28pm PT
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Somewhere I heard women age twice as fast as men. If true Klimmer and heart throb will both be the same age when Klimmer is 76. That's physical age mind you.
Women get smart at age 11. Men lose whatever smarts they were born with at age 11. As a result there is no way to match a couple intellectually, thus explaining the 50% divorce rate and the population problem.
(Extended applause.)
Thank you. Thank you. My unified theory to explain two dilemmas, each a million years old, is not really that much. I do this much and more each day before breakfast. But thank you anyway.
Edit:
Hard to believe but Klimmer has another ark on the moon thread going.
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Gene
climber
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Oct 14, 2013 - 07:42pm PT
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And I thought I was good at math.
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doughnutnational
Gym climber
its nice here in the spring
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Oct 14, 2013 - 07:57pm PT
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Between this, your religious ramblings and the arc on the moon I'm pretty glad you never taught my daughter.
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Gene
climber
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Oct 14, 2013 - 08:04pm PT
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We are both Messianic believers. She loves and serves HaShem.
I've had the pleasure of doing some fun activities in group settings with her, surfing and climbing.
Are you her youth pastor?
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Reilly
Mountain climber
The Other Monrovia- CA
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Oct 14, 2013 - 08:38pm PT
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Hey, Klim, best of luck with your life choices but, seriously, what led
you to think you would get meaningful answers here?
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monolith
climber
SF bay area
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Oct 14, 2013 - 08:42pm PT
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He's not looking for advice. He's bragging, and delusional.
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Leggs
Sport climber
Tucson, AZ
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Oct 14, 2013 - 08:47pm PT
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+10, Gene.
He's not looking for advice. He's bragging, and delusional.
NO!!!! *no.... no. I refuse to believe it*
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okie
Trad climber
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Oct 14, 2013 - 09:40pm PT
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Locker nailed it: "daddy issues." Enjoy.
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Edge
Trad climber
Boulder, CO
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Oct 14, 2013 - 09:52pm PT
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Lots to consider in this thread. My first wife and I have a July-November romance (those are our birth months); we are still married, but technically she is my first wife. She hates when I call her that. Heh.
She is 4 1/3 years my senior, and now I am thinking "when I am 86, do I really want to be saddled with a 90 year old?" I mean, I may want to find someone closer to my own age to race wheelchairs with and help me throw water balloons out the bus windows at people with body piercings. Maybe locate some 80-something chica with a similar jawline so we can keep expenses down by sharing the false teeth.
Then again, I love my first wife. I suppose I'll sack up and find a way to make it work.
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Lynne Leichtfuss
Sport climber
moving thru
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Oct 14, 2013 - 09:53pm PT
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Daphne brought up several great points. They made me recollect something I promised myself when my husband died. I made myself a two year rule. I would need to know someone a minumum of two years before I would even consider marriage again.
The heart and the hormones can overwhelm reality. Reality is making sure you have enough in common for the relationship to last. It takes at least two years to really get to know someone.....actually, more like 5.
What's the rush Dude? If she loves you, really loves you and your life and everyone in your life she will still be there in two short years.
Let patience have it's perfect work......Lynne
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dirtbag
climber
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Oct 14, 2013 - 10:13pm PT
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My professional opinion? I'd say that this is your body saying "I am ready" and the strength of the chemistry is over-riding your pre-frontal cortex. Wait until your divorce is final and you've had a while on your own without distraction before you open up to finding your mate.
Excellent advice.
That makes complete sense. Not what any lovestruck fool wants to hear though!
But, yeah, that's what I ended up doing and I had a break up 6 months later worse in many ways than the divorce.
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Klimmer
Mountain climber
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Topic Author's Reply - Oct 14, 2013 - 10:39pm PT
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"Oct 14, 2013 - 03:41pm PT
The rule of age in dating/hookup/marriage is the following: half your age plus seven years... so at 51 you have 25.5 plus 7 or 32.5 The cutoff line for 51 is 32.5. Anyone over 32.5 years is fair game anyone younger is trouble."
So if I wait until I'm 65 and she's 39.5 according to the the formula, we can then marry even though we'll be 25 years apart still (65 - 40 = 25). So I just have to wait for the half plus 7 rule to kick into effect. Cool. Lol.
Guys and girls I'm just thinking out loud.
I've been separated 2.5 yrs. I've known this beautiful 26 yr. old woman from the synagogue for 1.5 yrs. Eyes have locked many times and hearts beat faster and she seems to always blush when we talk. I really like talking with her. I don't look my age. People often guess 40. I have my full head of hair and growing it out some. A little grey is easily dyed to natural colors. Brad Pitt and Johnny Depp length like. And I certainly don't act my age.
She knows my daughter. In fact she is the middle school Shabbat teacher for my daughters class. She's going into education to be a credentialed teacher. She's going to be a great teacher. She looks exactly like my daughters older sister. When they first met they hit it off immediately and called each of sisters. Pretty cool really. But the difference is still apparent when you look close.
It's funny how controversial this May-Dec couple thing is. It really comes down to the the two people involved. They're the ones who can only really make the decision. No one else can.
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Phantom X
Trad climber
Honeycomb Hideout
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Oct 14, 2013 - 10:47pm PT
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Bigfoot sought out a yearling when he was in his fourties and it has worked out fine! He calls it "Going for the groceries".
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Lynne Leichtfuss
Sport climber
moving thru
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Oct 14, 2013 - 10:48pm PT
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Dingus Milktoast, EOD is, yeah, end of day. But almost no one lives in a vacumn. In this case Klimmer has children he is responsible for. He's smoking powerful drug if he thinks this will work without hurt.
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Klimmer
Mountain climber
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Topic Author's Reply - Oct 14, 2013 - 10:59pm PT
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"In this case Klimmer has children he is responsible for. He's smoking powerful drug if he thinks this will work without hurt."
My children know divorce isn't what I wanted. I didn't ask for it nor ever did I consider it. They know I didn't make this happen. I've resisted for some time. But in the end it's what she wants. Rabbi Shaul (Paul) says to let her go if she wants to go. And he got it straight from Yeshua.
But then ...
"It's not good for man to be alone." -- HaShem, Book of Genesis.
My children want me to be happy. They like her a lot.
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Klimmer
Mountain climber
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Topic Author's Reply - Oct 14, 2013 - 11:10pm PT
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I'm speculating. But if we did get together and marry, people would automatically assume she's my daughter's and my son's birth mother. Really.
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Klimmer
Mountain climber
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Topic Author's Reply - Oct 14, 2013 - 11:35pm PT
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So Cragman,
Are all these couples sick and twisted? Or just me?
18 of Hollywood's Hit and Miss May-December Marriages
7:46 PM PST 11/17/2011 by Sophie Schillaci, Chris Godley, Michael O'Connell
On the heels of Ashton Kutcher and Demi Moore divorce announcement, THR looks back at the couples with famously wide age gaps -- including the duos still making it work (Annette Bening and Warren Beatty) and the couples who just couldn't cut it (Billy Joel and Katie Lee).
http://www.hollywoodreporter.com/gallery/demi-moore-ashton-kutcher-may-december-263213#1-ashton-kutcher-demi-moore
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