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Reeotch
Trad climber
4 Corners Area
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May 18, 2013 - 12:37pm PT
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That's rough, man. Don't blame yourself, Gdavis, we're with you.
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apogee
climber
Technically expert, safe belayer, can lead if easy
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May 18, 2013 - 12:45pm PT
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GDavis
Social climber
SOL CAL
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Topic Author's Reply - May 18, 2013 - 12:50pm PT
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We saw you while out bouldering on thursday, Apogee. I wasn't sure if it was you or not. wish I said hi.
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SofCookay
climber
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May 18, 2013 - 12:50pm PT
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Greg, my heart is broken for you and Lucas' family - my most sincerest condolences to you and all affected by his passing. I only knew Lucas from when he would come in to the JT Nomad's from time to time, on his way to climb in JT, and what I remember the most about him is he was always smiling, always happy. RIP young man.
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Todd Gordon
Trad climber
Joshua Tree, Cal
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May 18, 2013 - 12:55pm PT
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So very sorry to hear this;.....peace and strength to family and friends....
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apogee
climber
Technically expert, safe belayer, can lead if easy
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May 18, 2013 - 12:58pm PT
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Were you at the Slab at County Park? I was walking my pup...were you with Lucas that day?
If so, my regret is compounded. I had an agenda at the time, and just blazed by, losing an opportunity to connect. Dammit.
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HighDesertDJ
Trad climber
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May 18, 2013 - 12:58pm PT
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Greg, I am so sorry, man. This must be an incredibly stressful couple of days for you. I hope we are able to help you process through it and grieve the loss of your friend and partner.
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GDavis
Social climber
SOL CAL
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Topic Author's Reply - May 18, 2013 - 01:20pm PT
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I appreciate all the wonderful words. I want to do the best by Lucas and be there for those that are hurting. I think a bit of him is in me, and if anyone would like to talk and maybe see or hear a bit of him I would love to try to put his wisdom out there.
No regrets apogee, that's what life is about. you couldn't have known.
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Ezra Ellis
Trad climber
WA, & NC & Idaho
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May 18, 2013 - 01:32pm PT
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So sorry, lucas sounds like a fine young man.
Take care of your self!
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Ksolem
Trad climber
Monrovia, California
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May 18, 2013 - 02:21pm PT
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One moment you’re just having another day at the crag. The next you are in that surreal place where all you want to do with every fiber of your being is to turn back the clock, undo the last few seconds. But time, ruthlessly, marches on. Reality sinks in. The moment is in the past but still happening. I've been in this place a few times in less serious circumstances; an injury, a car crash, but never the up close and personal loss of a friend. Almost, but that doesn't count.
June 18, 1994 I will never forget. Mark Wagner, Ian Katz and I did Turbo Flange (Mark was on point.)Then we went over and did laps on the Bat Crack to burn off the adrenaline. A young man fell from the summit after doing the Maiden. We brought down his remains in the litter. It was a real mess, and I was not at all used to this sort of thing. Several days later I started having these hallucinations. I ended up seeing a psychiatrist specializing in ptsd. Basically he started by asking me “okay, tell me what happened…” I started to tell the story as I remembered it, but he would make me slow down, go frame by frame, digging up every detail. I was surprised how much of that event I had already repressed. Getting it all out took two hours after which I was fine.
Greg, the reason I am posting this old story is to make the point that your job now is to take good care of yourself. Be sure to recognize the signs of trouble and get help if you need it. You sound like you’re doing well, just please take care. I’m sure Your friend would say the same if he were able. I am deeply sorry for your loss.
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David Knopp
Trad climber
CA
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May 18, 2013 - 02:26pm PT
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Greg i don't know you at all, but have loved reading your posts here on ST-funny, kind, and brutal, sometimes all at once. I am so sorry for your loss-as others have said, we are all here for you, holding a little piece of both of you in our hearts.
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elistar12
climber
San Diego, CA
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May 18, 2013 - 02:27pm PT
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A friend informed me this morning of Lucas' passing so I visited the site to read your brave account of yesterday's traumatic events. I am very sorry this happened to the both of you, best of friends from what I gathered. Cannot imagine what you and everyone involved in Lucas' life are going through.
I hope you are able to find peace and comfort in those around you and in recalling memories of climbing adventures with your dear friend...and a great friend you are.
May Lucas rest peacefully, and Greg remember he will ALWAYS be with you.
Take care buddy.
eliane
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yedi
Trad climber
Stanwood,wa
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May 18, 2013 - 02:32pm PT
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Really sorry to hear about this. Some are called sooner than others. Some grace other than my own carried me through some strange mountain adventures. RIP .
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GDavis
Social climber
SOL CAL
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Topic Author's Reply - May 18, 2013 - 02:38pm PT
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I appreciate all the support, for now I am in a good place - with family and friends. Our friendship was always that I was the one with girl problems/work drama/head issues and he was the rock. I'm channeling his strength as best I can - it has never been something I've been able to deal with well. He wouldn't want me to internalize it, and though I probably will in the wee hours of the evening I can find solace in hearing his voice tell me not to worry, that what happened has happened and to be there for everyone.
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Lynne Leichtfuss
Sport climber
moving thru
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May 18, 2013 - 03:09pm PT
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Greg, Bruce just called me........I had no idea til just a few minutes ago.
Oh my God. I am writing here because no way I could talk. I worked with Lucas Thursday (Thank God) and it was my last day before getting ready to leave for TPR.
As I was leaving Lucas said, "wait Lynne." He walked over and gave me a big hug (so unLucaslike)and wished me luck. We talked about maybe seeing him in Paris.......Oh my God. lynne
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Batrock
Trad climber
Burbank
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May 18, 2013 - 03:23pm PT
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Kris is right, you need to find a way to deal with this in a healthy way and your sharing the incident in this way is the first step. PTSD will creep up on you in ways you never thought. I had to deal with it recently from an incident that happened 15 years ago while working as a fireman in South Central. Please take care of yourself and let us know if you need anything from the "community".
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GoMZ
Trad climber
Eastern Sierra
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May 18, 2013 - 03:56pm PT
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Damn, this is terrible. My sincere condolences to all that knew him. So sorry.
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SteveW
Trad climber
The state of confusion
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May 18, 2013 - 04:00pm PT
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Greg, I'm so sorry.
I wish I knew the words to help you
though this.
Best wishes, take care of yourself.
Condolences to all of Lucas' family and friends.
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BillO
Trad climber
Yachats, OR
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May 18, 2013 - 04:17pm PT
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A very tragic event so sorry for all who were involved. My condolences to you Greg and to Lucas' family and friends. I'm sure the Idyllwild Climbers Festival tomorrow will be a bit sadder with his passing.
P.S. Greg I am doing the design for the future kiosk for Tahquitz. If you contact me and send me a photo of Lucas I will gladly replace one of the photos on it with one of him or the both of you.
Bill Odenthal
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MisterE
Social climber
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May 18, 2013 - 04:27pm PT
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Greg, so sorry to hear about this tragic accident.
Best wishes to you and other friends and family.
Erik
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