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JEM
Social climber
Oxnard, CA
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I am very sorry for your loss Tyrus. My thoughts are with you. Stay strong and open to the outpouring of love and sympathy from so many of his friends.
John Moore
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dilettante
Trad climber
NJ
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I'm so very sorry that your dad died. It devasted me, someone who only knew of him, to hear that he was gone so I can only imagine what you're going through. I'm sure that he loved you very deeply and never intended to leave you. Hang in there.
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Mazzystr
Gym climber
Homeless...
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Hi Tyrus,
My sincerest condolences for your loss. North Carolina folks have been pouring their distraught and condolences on the local boards and email lists. Your fathers reputation and generosity is wide spread. He was very well received at his lecture in Asheville, NC last year.
I have never met John. I only know of him through story and film. His passion and achievement with family, friend, sport and life I can only dream about. He is and will always be an inspiration to myself and many others.
/Chris C
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Old&InTheWay
Trad climber
NC
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Tyrus,
You're right. John is a great man. I've known and respected your Dads name for 30 years, but I've never met him. He IS one of my heroes, but I live a very long way from California. Your dad inspired the freedom of living and climbing in more people than we may ever know. He made us all rethink what we though was possible and we are better because of it.
From all the posts, anyone can tell he really loved you. You are in my thoughts in this difficult time.
May peace and love always be there when you need it.
-Bruce
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jennifer LaDuca
Social climber
Oakhurst
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So sorry for your loss. May your father rest peacefully....
Corbett family
Nipinawasse, Ca
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kdcpeloton
Mountain climber
No. Cal
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Tyrus, I met you many years ago when I was interviewing your dad for a film I was making. I thought you both were terrific. Your dad inspired and made us laugh. I lost my dad (a climber and skier) when I was young, too. This poem has helped me and I hope it helps you, too. Love and great courage to you.
(From an Indian Death Song)
Do not stand at my grave and weep –
I am not there. I do not sleep.
I am a thousand winds that blow.
I am the diamond glint on snow.
I am the sunlight on ripened grain.
I am the gentle autumn rain.
When you wake in the morning hush,
I am the swift uplifting rush
Of quiet birds in circling flight.
I am the soft star light at night.
Do not stand at my grave and weep.
I am not there. I do not sleep.
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k-man
Gym climber
SCruz
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Tyrus,
Put a postage stamp on that sax and send it to the sky.
Even from there, JB can reach down and touch us again.
The climbing world is a broad and deep world based on real
friendships. We are a tribe and JB was one of our elders.
His ring was clear and true.
We all respect you for being a part of that man, and that man a part of you.
May peace ride with you.
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mmadd
Trad climber
Squamish, BC
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Hi Tyrus. You don't know me but your Dad sponsored me with Acopa. I just found out 20 minutes ago and it has devastated me. Your father was a great man. An inspiration to me for my entire 20 years of climbing. I was so honored when he took me on board. His love, his fun attitude and his passion will never be forgotten. If your ever in Squamish, Canada you have a home. You can find me through his email. Take care.
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Doug Robinson
Trad climber
Santa Cruz
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Tyrus,
You said so much in your brief post.
Yes, your dad was a great man. Everyone agrees. But since his greatness was beyond us, we struggle to understand it. We could all admire his genius -- as all these notes to you attest -- but few could understand it. You need to know that the great men live by different rules than the rest of us. They can be hard to understand, because they forge the new rules of life that will be clearer only in the future.
You are a privileged young man because you got to live closer to the genius of your dad than any of us. And no doubt you have inherited some of John's agility of body and of mind, and his calm in the face of danger; and that his way of being in the world has rubbed off on you. No doubt some of your dad's greatness will be expressed in due time in your life. And no doubt too it will take its own special form in your unique being.
Great men die by their own rules too. That can be just as hard to understand and feel, right now, even harder to accept. Yes, it is totally unfair that he is taken from you. At times the universe is unfair. Screamingly unfair.
I was on my way to Tuolumne when I heard the news. All day I climbed on that granite that John knew better and loved more intensely than any of us. All day, with nearly every move I made, I thought about your dad, and wished he could have been there to experience such a fine mountain day.
But the next morning -- this morning -- I realized that the situation was not so much loss as fullness. That John had already experienced more of Tuolumne in his life than any of us had. That he had wrung so much from the experience that he was already immeasurably fuller, brim full, beyond the rest of us.
You see, the thought was already healing, shifting me from the loss of him to the fullness of his life.
You said another big thing too. About feeling -- knowing -- that it was not a good day for soloing. Hold on to that. Your intuition was speaking to you, and it is hard for us to learn to listen to our intuition, to hear and obey. Out of your dad's death, that at least is a small gift to you.
I don't cry much, and there were tears in my eyes all day yesterday. Peace to you Tyrus, and understanding.
With love,
Doug Robinson
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Lynne Leichtfuss
Social climber
valley center, ca
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Tyrus,
Back after another day of sober contemplation. I mentioned stories about your Dad yesterday and there are some that show what kind of person he was inside his soul. I'd like to try and share a couple. These are for you to remember in the days that follow when you may be alone dealing with your loss and all the thoughts and struggles that sometimes follow.
Your Pop was probably one of the most gifted climbers ever, if that alone is what he's remembered for it would be an awesome tribute.
But to me and my family your Dad was much more than the Best Climber. We knew your Pop when our 4 kids were little and we hauled them around in Josh and Yosemite. Your Dad always said howdy on the trail, never in to much of a hurry to stop and
talk.
When your Dad and my husband Dan were up in Tuloumne many years ago someone set up a boxing match between them. Dan was 10 years older, but boxed in college and good. So Dan kinda decked your Poppa. But your Dad, ever the Class Act, wrote the story on Super Topo when my husband died in 2007 and ended the story with these words.....(I'd never known the end of the story...) "and Dan said, "" damn, I still have it."" An incredibly good sport, your Dad.
Your father honored my husband by recounting this really funny story on my husbands ...."will be missed thread". Your Dad was a real man because he knew who he was and his ego was not threatened by telling the story.
So after Dan died your Dad emailed and helped me through the grief of losing someone I loved so much. Your Dad was able to do this because he himself knew grief having lost two close friends. How many incredible athletes of your Dad's caliber take the time to support an old aquaintance who was not even a close friend? Your Dad did!
More recently your Dad and I began to work together to strategize and promote his future. Even though John was struggling, as I was, to make mortgage payments he made sure I knew I would make a percentage off anything we collaborated on.
I told him til I knew what I was really doing no payment, but a poster would be nice.
Tyrus, your Dad cared about people. He knew I was trying to reinvent my life (after Dan died) so he made sure when he signed up with Simon recently for the slide shows that Simon would teach me also.
Last week your Dad invited me to the outdoor show in Salt Lake to make contacts and learn the ropes to continue my education in marketing and climbing promo.
When we had a recent Thread on ST Called (I think) Are you a climber.....I posted and said tho I loved to climb I was not to be considered a climber because I could not set anchors etc. Your Pop emailed and said he would teach me how.
"Yeah, I thought, one of the greatest ever climbers offering to take time to teach this old lady". What a Dude !!!!!
So Tyrus, some stories from my life to let you know that your Dad was a remarkable human because he cared about humans. He not only cared, he did what few do. He took time out of his busy life to enter the lives of others and help them. To help them live and learn and grow.
You know as I write this I am realizing that this is what jesus has asked us to do. And your Dad did it...he lived it.
Your Dad was a new Grate Friend to me, he was the best and I miss him sorely. I will pray for you everyday Tyrus like I did for your Dad. Peace be with you and finally ..... Cheers someday. Cheers was one of your Dad's favorite email endings....Positive Dude. Not Perfect, none of us are, but gifted, special and caring. Peace be with you. I have more stories and I'm only an email away.
I hope some of this helps give insight into your Dad's life. You are special Ty and there is a plan for your life too, Dude.
Night Tyrus, Lynne
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Fletcher
Trad climber
the end of the world as we know it, & I feel fine.
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I only hope that my children have extraordinary people like Lynne and Doug (and many others here) to guide them when I am gone.
Peace and light,
Eric
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Estee
Social climber
Alpine, Utah
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Dear Tyrus. Your sweet words comforted me very much. I am so sorry for your loss. My family and I loved your father. We recently saw a show of his in Utah. It was very entertaining and at one point a question was asked about what Your Father concidered his greatest accomplishment. With no hesitation he said, "My Son". You could feel the love and reverence he has for you. You are in our hearts and prayers to help give you any strength or peace and comfort you may need. Carry On Love, the Millers
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Abissi
Trad climber
MI
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Heavens gonna be a better place with your Dad there.
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YHVH
climber
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Tyrus
I knew your dad for a short period when I lived in Mammoth. I knew he was the greatest climber in the world...but he was much more than that. He gave voice to people who didn't have one. He spoke truth....and sometimes critisized for it. For this he is a great man...with a pure heart and an amazing soul. He could see beyond. I would watch him with you as a baby..He loves you more than words can say. My dad passed on when I was 10...and we still have an incredible connection..NO DOUBT
Sending you PURE LIGHT_
FIAT LVX
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Hardly Visible
Social climber
Llatikcuf WA
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Tyrus,
I did not know your dad other than through reputation,but having recently lost a loved on I do understand the grief you must be going through. Do not be afraid to feel and accept all of the kindness and good thoughts that will be coming your way during this troubled time. My heart and Prayers go out to you.
Kevin
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Marco.
climber
italia
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Tyrus,
I've met your Dad twice here in Italy by real, but I've spoke so much with him.
He was a Great and Amazing man.
You must be proud of your Dad young Bachar.
Stay strong.
Marco
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Wilster
Social climber
So.Cal.
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Such horrible news
So sorry for your loss TB
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Rob Roy Ramey
Trad climber
Colorado
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John Bachar's actions spoke louder than words. His feats were visionary and beyond the horizon of possibilities. That is a powerful legacy to be proud of.
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Lynne Leichtfuss
Social climber
valley center, ca
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Hi, young Dude. Been praying for you and all your family, Paola, and friends today. Found out one thing about grief and profound sadness this past year....at least it helped me alot. I tried to avoid the feelings, but when I just stopped trying to push them away and allowed them to happen ( I called it embracing grief ) it began to ever so slightly ease. The posters are right. Time....it will take time....a step at a time, a day at a time with patience and perserverance you all will make it. Peace, lynne (I cry with you and ask, "what pray, is so healing about tears and why at times are they so hard to come by?" )
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scuffy b
climber
Sinatra to Singapore
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Hey Lynne,
I've noticed something lately, about tears.
I get some bad news, for instance this bad news, and feel numb,
sad, but comparatively calm, until I try to talk about it,
then the floodgates open.
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