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Melissa
Gym climber
berkeley, ca
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May 13, 2009 - 12:35am PT
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That was funny, Locker.
Crude, but funny. :-)
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Lynne Leichtfuss
Social climber
valley center, ca
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May 13, 2009 - 12:39am PT
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Wrong Timmy, heard it from several cute young ladies at the Lift...they dug it Dude. :D
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tradchick
Trad climber
White Mountains
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May 13, 2009 - 07:26am PT
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Someone said that if you climb with yer lover, things turn from being lovebirds to sibling rivalry. For sure I've seen plenty of that at the crag. Tomcat and I get along better at the crag than at home.
Because we climb together so much, we're totally in synch and never doubt that we're getting a good belay. We climb at the same level and excel at the same types of climbs.
Khanom: There are plenty of what I call "girlfriend" climbers out there...that are just out there climbing because their guy climbs. Around N. Conway though, I see a fair number of serious women climbers too. When I was single, I wouldn't even consider dating a guy that didn't climb. I knew I wasn't going to compromise on climbing every weekend. I figured no guy was going to put up with that long term.
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Chiloe
Trad climber
Lee, NH
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May 13, 2009 - 08:37am PT
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We went to Red Rocks in March and are headed back for our honeymoon in October.
How cool!
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Phil1465
Trad climber
Brooklyn
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May 13, 2009 - 11:03am PT
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So let me get this straight
This thread is about climbing women who are complaining that it’s hard to find a guy who
-Can lead routes about or a little tuffer than you can lead
-Wants to climb as much as you
-Has a job so he can help contribute to gas, food, beer, dope, etc, etc… but this job doesn’t infringe on his ability to go climbing of course
-Puts sex in front of climbing… wants to go climbing with you first because of your climbing ability and if something works out then fine, but the climbing always comes first.
-And is a all around decent straight up dude
Gee, I don’t know why it's so hard to meet a guy that meets all of the above? :)
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susan peplow
climber
www.joshuatreevacationhomes.com
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Topic Author's Reply - May 13, 2009 - 12:04pm PT
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Tradchick writes, "When I was single, I wouldn't even consider dating a guy that didn't climb"
Exactly and that's part (not entirely) of what this thread is about. It's amazing how hard it was/is to find a companion who wants to climb as much as you.
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happiegrrrl
Trad climber
New York, NY
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May 13, 2009 - 12:06pm PT
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^Is the "sex" in front of climbing" a freudian slip???(since you say the opposite afterwad).
hahahahah
It's sort of interesting that the girl's thread is about finding an intimate relationship WITH a climber/climbing partner that works, and the guy's thread was about how intimate relationships ENDED the climbing.....
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Phil1465
Trad climber
Brooklyn
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May 13, 2009 - 12:15pm PT
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^Is the "sex" in front of climbing" a freudian slip???
are you kidding me?
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susan peplow
climber
www.joshuatreevacationhomes.com
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Topic Author's Reply - May 13, 2009 - 12:33pm PT
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Happie,
The real problem is that both male & females let chemistry talk and next thing you know they're in a relationship with someone who doesn't climb.
Boy with girl who doesn't climb - Climbing career DONE
Girl with boy who doesn't climb - Relationship DONE
That's the difference.
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Toker Villain
Big Wall climber
Toquerville, Utah
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May 13, 2009 - 12:35pm PT
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Guess I'm lucky, I've had some terrific female partners, climbing and otherwise.
Dated Joy Ungritch for a while in '85 (first date was FA of Charliehorse Needle) and we climbed in 3 states. We remained friendly with friends in common.
Had a nonclimbing gf for half a decade that had other pursuits and allowed me mine.
Climbed with a number of women who could out-free me but relied on my aid skills, a good complementary partnership for the right lines.
Recently dated a woman for near a year who professed a wish to climb (the widow of a former ropemate) but hardly ever managed to pull it off (and was more in the "need a guide" category).
What can I say?
You rarely find it all.
Climbing is still fulfilling, but so are other things.
I'm still looking, but then, that can be half the fun!
My advice for the women: be honest and trade fair.
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Phil1465
Trad climber
Brooklyn
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May 13, 2009 - 12:47pm PT
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Susan Peplow
"Boy with girl who doesn't climb - Climbing career DONE
Girl with boy who doesn't climb - Relationship DONE"
LOLOL!!!!
OK how about...
a loopy climbing dude hooks up with non-climbing straight up lady "who insistes periiodicaly that loopy climber dude go climbing and act like a F'en 12 year old so she can read the New York Times in some F'en peace and quite!"
:)
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Elcapinyoazz
Social climber
Redlands
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May 13, 2009 - 12:58pm PT
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"It's amazing how hard it was/is to find a companion who wants to climb as much as you. "
Yeah, that 20:1 ratio must be rough for you ladies.
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MisterE
Trad climber
One Step Beyond!
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May 13, 2009 - 01:06pm PT
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Lay and belay
Climb and climb onto
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Crimpergirl
Sport climber
Boulder, Colorado!
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May 13, 2009 - 01:24pm PT
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Hmmm. Brassnuts has been acting funny, smelling a little fowl, coming home with down feathers on him, and spending more time "at the office" lately.
WHERE is that chickenslut?
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Phil1465
Trad climber
Brooklyn
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May 13, 2009 - 01:28pm PT
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ChickenSlut... Finger Link'en Good?
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Mungeclimber
Trad climber
sorry, just posting out loud.
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May 13, 2009 - 01:37pm PT
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"It's amazing how hard it was/is to find a companion who wants to climb as much as you."
With all due respect...horsesh#t
you can find them, but there are other requirements, yes?
who wants to climb with a doorknob? no one
who wants to climb with a ass? no one
who wants to climb with a wishywashy shithead? no one
tell me I'm lying?
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happiegrrrl
Trad climber
New York, NY
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May 13, 2009 - 01:50pm PT
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Okaym you guys are right. Sooze's statement should have read:
"It's amazing how hard it was/is to find a companion who wants to climb as much as you, and isn't a doorknob, ass, wishywashy shithead, etc., etc."
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kellie
climber
Seattle
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May 13, 2009 - 02:11pm PT
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In my admittedly two-bit opinion, climbing is not a date and it definitely is not a couples togetherness project. I climb because I love climbing, and frankly I don't want it all wound up with relationship drama.
My sweetheart is nice to me (and, praise God, drama-free), so I really could not give a rat's ass whether he climbs or not, how tall he is, or how much money he makes. It so happens that he does climb, but I know a ton of climbers, I had plenty of people to climb with during the seven years that I was a single climber. In fact most of those people are still regular climbing partners.
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crusher
climber
Santa Monica, CA
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May 13, 2009 - 02:12pm PT
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Mungie you ain't lying.
It's not THAT hard to find a guy who wants to climb as hard or harder than you do (as a woman)...it's hard, if you're looking for that person to be a sig. other, to find the other relationship qualities you may be looking for in that person.
Real hard core male climbers don't seem to be wired for any kind of domesticity at all. I say "any kind" because there are lots of us gals who may not want or need a traditional lifestyle - house, kiddies, etc. But being hard core comes with a lot of selfishness, it sort of has to and that never works well in any romantic relationship. There are some female climbers hard core like that but let's face it, most of us, at some point anyway, would like to have a nice romantic relationship that works with someone, regardless of whether we're still cranking or not.
Mr. Crusher and I are pretty lucky on that front, he'd probably climb more and live way, way closer to the ground but for me but we still get out there and have mostly (NOT all, let's say enough of) the same desires for how we live our lives...it really is timing and having enough things in common...being able to compromise and knowing which things you can live with in your life partner and which things you cannot.
And yes, we met climbing - almost 10 years ago now...and hitched for 4. Boy, is he lucky! (J.K.) : )
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matisse
climber
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May 13, 2009 - 03:25pm PT
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almost exactly what Crusher said. ditto for the part about her s/o. she could be describing the porter and I-right down to the timeline. minus the hitched part
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