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Avery
climber
New Zealand
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Topic Author's Original Post - Sep 28, 2017 - 03:20am PT
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I'm his brother Brian, any prayers or thoughts would be most welcome
this is not the first time that this happened
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phylp
Trad climber
Upland, CA
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Sep 28, 2017 - 03:42am PT
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Brian, thank you fr letting us know. Avery has been a presence on the Forum for a very long time. We have witnessed his struggles from afar, and continue to offer our thoughts and prayers to him in his ongoing battle with depression.
Avery, I hope you can find relief and peace somehow.
Phyl
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mouse from merced
Trad climber
The finger of fate, my friends, is fickle.
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Sep 28, 2017 - 04:29am PT
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Phylp pretty much says it for me.
Thanks for the information.
Go with God, Avery.
I'll be praying for you.
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Bushman
climber
The state of quantum flux
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Sep 28, 2017 - 06:15am PT
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He wrote me an email to touch bases a few days ago and I had no idea he was in such distress. Wrote him a lengthy reply yesterday but had not sent it until this morning. Hope he gets it...I want him to know that we all have so many ups and downs, and although there is so much heartbreak, tragedy, and struggle, life is so short and fleeting that we must persevere or we might not experience all of it's magic.
-Tim
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donini
Trad climber
Ouray, Colorado
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Sep 28, 2017 - 07:01am PT
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I'm rooting for you Avery. You are not alone.....life serves up struggles made easier by reaching out to friends and loved ones.
You are a member of the "tribe" and a respected one who keeps our past fresh with your history threads.....we want more!
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Happiegrrrl2
Trad climber
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Sep 28, 2017 - 07:09am PT
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I hope that Avery will be able to feel our wishes for his health and life in this thread, and not be overwhelmed with feelings of vulnerability in our awareness he is struggling so.
Avery - I don't know you, but will keep you in my thoughts in the hopes that you are able to stay strong and stay with us in this world. While it's true that nobody gets out alive, sometimes it is hard to feel that our presence is welcome, and needed.
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Delhi Dog
climber
Good Question...
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Sep 28, 2017 - 07:11am PT
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Dude.
We all struggle in our own ways.
Know that you help create and are part of this fabric of life we all are part of.
And, we're all richer because of it.
Everything in its time.
How 'bout a few mountain images of those NZ alps!
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SC seagoat
Trad climber
Santa Cruz, Moab, A sailboat, or some time zone
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Sep 28, 2017 - 07:30am PT
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Avery, do whatever you can to fight those demons. You need to be here.
Susan
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Rick A
climber
Boulder, Colorado
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Sep 28, 2017 - 07:47am PT
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Avery,
You are a valued member of this community and we all are pulling for you to recover.
Hang on, man.
Rick
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hacky47
Trad climber
goldhill
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Sep 28, 2017 - 08:00am PT
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Sending love your way
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Reilly
Mountain climber
The Other Monrovia- CA
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Sep 28, 2017 - 08:23am PT
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Avery, listen to all the people who care for you -
WE WANT YOU AROUND, MATE!
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Tarbuster
climber
right here, right now
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Sep 28, 2017 - 08:42am PT
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Read this years ago, found it pretty darn insightful, if not helpful:
Darkness Visible: A Memoir of Madness, William Styron
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Darkness_Visible_(memoir);
I bet you, 10 to 1, Avery is a reader? It's not very long. 86 pages.
If nothing else, Brian, you might read it.
As I recall, Styron underwent voluntary hospitalization, as one might for any near terminal disease.
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JLyons
Sport climber
Cali
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Sep 28, 2017 - 08:59am PT
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I know when I attempt suicide, the first thing I'll do is have my brother post on ST for me
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snakefoot
climber
Nor Cal
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Sep 28, 2017 - 09:02am PT
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stay around here! your threads on the mountains and route ascents have been great. i just dont post that often.
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Bldrjac
Ice climber
Boulder
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Sep 28, 2017 - 09:20am PT
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Brian,
Thanks so much for this update. PLEASE tell Avery that we need him here! speaking for myself, he has given me so very much by his postings and support of Jack Roberts, and his routes on Huntington and Denali....sending lots of love!
best,
Pam Roberts
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Steve Grossman
Trad climber
Seattle, WA
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Sep 28, 2017 - 09:28am PT
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Avery- Whatever is weighing on you so heavily get some help to work through it and get back to living again. The alternative isn't really one at all.
So stand up mate, I have a bet on you for the long haul and would like to meet you for some ale and a tale or two once I get around to visiting NZ.
You are a good man and are loved and appreciated by many of us here and closer to home.
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NutAgain!
Trad climber
South Pasadena, CA
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Sep 28, 2017 - 10:15am PT
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JLyons, when there are people in your life who love you, who care for you, they will use whatever mechanisms are available to try to reach out to you, to connect with you, and to activate whatever forms of safety net present themselves. Maybe the intimacy and shared human bond of trying to prevent unnecessary death trumps the niceties of personal space and honoring boundaries. For example, when a person needs CPR or a defibrillator, you don't pause to consider whether they might be embarrassed if their shirt is open.
Avery, I don't know you or your circumstances or what you are feeling, but I do know what it is like to feel like there is nothing to look forward to, to think that problems are insurmountable, and that there is no point in trying or that nothing can fix whatever is going on. I have felt that I screwed my life beyond redemption at a couple of different points, that I didn't deserve to be happy. In the end, we all choose what meaning we create in our lives (whether it is handed to us or we have to toil for a lifetime to figure it out), and no matter what our histories, we can all choose how to honor that meaning going forward. Good luck.
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rbord
Boulder climber
atlanta
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Sep 28, 2017 - 10:48am PT
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We're all humans - we all have struggles getting our brains to serve us.
I'm sorry to hear about your struggles, Avery.
I'm sorry to see yours, JLyons.
I'm sorry for my kids' brain struggles, and I'm sorry for my own brain struggles.
For all of you who do struggle, and for those fortunate enough to not notice the struggle, my best wishes to you. Hang in there.
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Reeotch
climber
4 Corners Area
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Sep 28, 2017 - 12:39pm PT
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Avery, I been thinking about those Kitchatna Spires, lately . . .
I always enjoy your well researched posts. Hang in there, bro . . .
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SteveW
Trad climber
The state of confusion
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Sep 28, 2017 - 12:55pm PT
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Pulling for you here, Avery.
You'll make it!
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