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ThomasKeefer
Trad climber
San Diego
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Topic Author's Original Post - Oct 8, 2013 - 12:28am PT
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Does anyone ever regret getting divorced?
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johnkelley
climber
Anchorage Alaska
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Know why divorce is so expensive?
Because it's worth it!
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ThomasKeefer
Trad climber
San Diego
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Topic Author's Reply - Oct 8, 2013 - 12:35am PT
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Ok.. thats all I needed to know. Awesome.
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splitter
Trad climber
SoCal Hodad, surfing the galactic plane
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Does anyone ever regret getting divorced? perhaps yer kids, if ya have any. never been married, so i don't know. i do regret not getting married when i had the opportunity (was engaged). hope it works out for the best for you. maybe you will get back together after a little down time (or whatever its called).
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Phil_B
Social climber
Hercules, CA
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Don't know about your case, but for me, it was the right thing to do. Hurt like hell, but I was forced to face some things about myself that I'd always been able to hide before.
Now, I look back on it as the push that led me to personal growth.
Do I regret it? Not a bit. Good luck. It's gonna suck for a while.
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Onewhowalksonrocks
Mountain climber
In the middle of the ocean
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I always say I am happily divorced. It's the married ones who frown when I say it. They just don't understand!
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guido
Trad climber
Santa Cruz/New Zealand/South Pacific
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First is the worst
Second the same.
Third the best of all the game.
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BLUEBLOCR
Social climber
joshua tree
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50 yrs old and I've never been married either! I've lost many a great gal, to what I would say is
honorability though. Marriage is a doctrine for a vow to commiting to become a family for the reason of procreation with a chosen spouse inwhich ur combined perspective will produce a better generated generation.
Without a vision to produce a growingly better loving future. The paper a marriage certificate ain't worth sh#t.
Marriage isn't rules, or laws written down on paper. It's the coherence between two hearts to combine inorder to procreate a baby so as to create a heart in ur offspring that is most admired by the parents. Idealistically.
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MisterE
climber
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Wow, airing your grievances with your Ex on a public forum.
This is so new
so fresh.
I just need that little extra push
that hurtful thing
for me to share
EVERYTHING!
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BLUEBLOCR
Social climber
joshua tree
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Negotiating the terms of the divorce prior to marriage is good advice.
Sounds like good buisness. Doesn't sound like love.
Edit: Jstan, where'd ya go? I wasn't done with you yet ..
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Kenygl
Trad climber
Salt Lake City
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Not for one minute. And I've had some practice at it.
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dirtbag
climber
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What I've regretted is getting involved in shitty relationships in the first place.
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wilbeer
Mountain climber
honeoye falls,ny.greeneck alleghenys
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I just hope it is not cyclic.
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MikeL
climber
SANTA CLARA, CA
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Done it twice. The first was my call, the second hers. Both were difficult; the second immensely painful (lost my marriage and business in the same day--we were partners). After the second divorce, I felt like I couldn't trust my own decision making.
They say it takes as long to get over a divorce and back healthy as you were married. (Ugh.)
Immediately after the second divorce, a close friend of mine told me two things that were told to him after his second divorce: (i) it couldn't have been any other way, and (ii) it was the best thing that could have happened. I cursed him violently, but six years later when I finally returned to being whole , I came to see . . . he was right.
No matter who did what, there's learning there for you. I think you have to get to that. That's the point of it all. If you don't get that, you'll return to the same place (or worse).
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steve shea
climber
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I had a practice lap. It was the best thing to split. I learned a lot and have had a good marriage with number two.
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Srbphoto
climber
Kennewick wa
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marriage is like climbing:
some people flash it
some people redpoint it
some people never get it
and some people like off widths
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mechrist
Gym climber
South of Heaven
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50 yrs old and I've never been married
Gee, what a surprise!
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pyro
Big Wall climber
Calabasas
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lol locker!
if one don't work get another one!
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survival
Big Wall climber
Terrapin Station
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Locker, ever think you drove them crazy???....
Oh well, good thing you kept YOUR looks together, BWA HA HA hahahaaa!!!
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couchmaster
climber
pdx
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BLUEBLKER said: "Sounds like good buisness. Doesn't sound like love."
A marriage is a legal contract. That's exactly what it is. Legal and binding. Ask Locker or anyone who has split up. It gives you specific legal rights, and dictates in advance how much it's going to cost you if you split up.
Yet guys still don't get prenuptial agreements, which would be essentially an addendum to what you're signing when you get married.
Never divorced - 33 years together here...so far. No prenup.
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