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Reilly
Mountain climber
The Other Monrovia- CA
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Oh, my bad, I thought this was another thread about Russia and the Ukraine.
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rottingjohnny
Sport climber
mammoth lakes ca
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Reilly..You Jamoke...
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neebee
Social climber
calif/texas
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hey there say, paul... sometimes, too, i have had to let the owners deal with things... (the guys that were beating up their gals)(that's what the police are for, too) and then:
there was a guy burning leaves, and two of us neighbors were not sure whether to talk to him or not, and, since it was a more serious issue, we finally decided to call the owners and let them know--since it IS common knowledge around here, that it is NOT allowed...
so, i decided to call the owner,
for us both... only, because IF he did not listen and we STILL had the fire concern, he'd know that the OWNER carried more clout and could put him out of the house for endangering the neighborhood...
it was a windy, day as well...
in this case, it was good that we did, as:
the owner even said, he had to tell him TWICE, as, he saw him doing it once, too... so, you do have to be careful, too...
these days, if not done outside on a 'nice neighborhood' type day,
you might get hurt...
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Off White
climber
Tenino, WA
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Lots of different advice here, most people answering with what would work for them, but you've got to decide what works for you.
Myself, I try to not let encounters with as#@&%es make me an as#@&%e too, because that's not who I want to be, and I don't care to give someone else the power to shape who I am. As an example, if I get burned helping somebody, I don't let that prevent me from trying to help somebody else.
So I'd say follow what ever course of action leaves you feeling happy with yourself and true to your ideal character.
Oh, and I don't mean to imply I'm Ghandi or anything, one of my coping skills is to concoct a good revenge fantasy that I have no intention of following through on, because you're going to think and feel however the situation presses your hardwired buttons, and that's not entirely under your control. We do however have control over how we act.
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Anastasia
climber
Home
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I called the cops on my old neighbors more than once. I personally don't mind a party once in a blue moon but when it's every weekend and at the time... I had a dying father and a husband that worked on weekends. It wasn't good. Plus it never ended, they kept their music up all night until six AM. After one PM I was losing it DONE...
I did talk to him once but in his drunken state, he wanted to argue, fight. Luckily being pregnant and a female I got away... I am sure if I had been a guy it would have been much worse.
As for myself when we throw a party... I leave letters in my neighbors' mail boxes telling them of the event, the date and my phone number so they can call me direct if there are any problems, if we are keeping them up, etc. Plus they are welcome to join us too. I have never had a problem. Plus it helps that I usually just have about one to two parties a year. It's not a weekly thing.
AFS
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Brokedownclimber
Trad climber
Douglas, WY
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OK, here's my final post on this topic: You must treat this as a military campaign, and have all of your actions planned in advance, with options along the way depending on the outcomes of the different steps.
Step (1) is civility; just go over and have a brief and friendly "chat" about the situation without being confrontational. If the desired outcome is a "gee, we're sorry and we didn't realize we were annoying anyone," then the issue may be resolved. I seriously doubt this would be the outcome. If they become angry and abusive, proceed to step....
Step (2); Contact the landlord or owner of the property with a complaint and request for relief before...
Step (3); check with the City Attorney regarding the existing ordinances which may impinge on the situation, and get an "all clear" to call the cops.
Step (4) must not be mentioned or discussed here on a public forum... ;)
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clinker
Trad climber
Santa Cruz, California
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For step 4 brokendownclimber knows a guy.
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Reilly
Mountain climber
The Other Monrovia- CA
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I'm from Chicago, I've a friend on speed dial...
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Brokedownclimber
Trad climber
Douglas, WY
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Vinnie and Guido. I'm originally from St. Louis...
Reilly if you're going to be a Facelift I've got some good stories!
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ontheedgeandscaredtodeath
Social climber
SLO, Ca
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Threaten the landlord with a lawsuit for profiting from an illegal nightclub in a residential neighborhood, zoning violations, illegal disposal of waste, etc.
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